3 Things To Stop Doing To Live a Life You Love

Are you feeling stuck in a life that doesn’t even feel like yours? Craving the ability to live a life you love? Making decisions that end up feeling all wrong? If you’re in a loop of dissatisfaction with the life you’re living then chances are you may have fallen victim to one of three common life traps, or what I call: The Big Three.

When you pull yourself out of the temptation of The Big Three, you’ll notice massive shifts beginning to take place in your life. And these shifts will, over time, lead you to living a life you love. I know, it seems too good to be true that there are things that you can actually start implementing right this moment that are going to change your life. ⁣
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But it’s true!⁣
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I call these “The Big Three” because they are three overwhelmingly common life traps you might fall into that will make it nearly impossible to genuinely live a life you love. They are: ⁣

COMPARING YOUR JOURNEY TO OTHERS

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Let me guess: you’re probably no stranger to idolizing someone else’s life, admiring someone from afar and even being downright jealous of someone who seems to have everything you want.

There’s nothing inherently bad with comparison. In fact, it can be a powerful force that guides you to realizations of what you want, what you don’t want, etc. Comparison can allow you to gain clarity, take some lessons to apply to your own life and even give you the boost you need to commit to the practices that support you to live a life you love. Because if they can have it, that means it’s possible for you, too!

Most of us don’t have that experience with comparison though, do we? Instead, many people experience crippling comparison that ends up diminishing all that they have achieved so far and reminds them of everything that they’re lacking. 

The next time you notice yourself caught up in the comparison trap, shift your perspective and try to take note of what you’re seeing. What is it about that person that you admire? Is it their success, their career, their outgoing nature? When you can pinpoint the exact thing your comparison is stemming from, you can then ask yourself how you can begin to embody those things yourself. 
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LIVING IN THE PAST

The dreaded “woulda, shoulda, coulda” cycle. Living in the past can play out in two different ways. The first is getting stuck in your head, replaying everything that could have been different and feeding into any feelings of regret. This can drive a person mad, ruminating over past conversations, experiences and decisions. The simple fact here is that you can’t change the past and staying stuck there will fill your body and mind with stress, disappointment, even frustration. 

The second way that living in the past holds you back is when you continually replay seasons of your life that were filled with peak moments. I catch myself doing this all the time. I’ve even said the words “the best part of my life has already happened, it’s all downhill from here”.  We get stuck into this way of living in the past because our experience was so great, so memorable, so special, that we can’t stop living it out again and again in our minds. When we’re stuck in those memories, our current reality just can’t compare.

The damaging part of this is when you get into that mindset that nothing could possibly compare to those moments again. As this happens, you begin to allow the wonderful memories of your past to start clouding how good you can have it right now and how many wonderful things are still ahead of you. 

The next time you notice yourself living in the past, give yourself a little body shake and come back to the present. Find a space of acceptance, gratitude or a lesson learned from your past experience and either let it go or use it as a driving force to continue to make incredible memories in your future. Because I promise, you can continue to live a life you love – it’s about actively choosing the things in life that fill you with joy and fulfillment. 
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SELF-SABoTaGE

Let’s hear it, what’s your go to excuse that you use to chicken out right before the good stuff is about to happen in your life?

Self-sabotaging behaviours are those things that we do to directly get in the way of our goals and values. They can include stress eating, procrastination, substance use, doing something to ruin a good and healthy relationship, and so much more. At the core, self-sabotaging behaviours are used as coping mechanisms to make us feel safe or in control. 

The next time you notice yourself falling back into your self-sabotaging habits, get curious. What’s causing you to do this? Is there something you’re avoiding? How does this habit of self-sabotage actually benefit you?

⁣The Big Three have the capability to stop you in your tracks, force you to settle into a life you don’t want, and keep you playing safe and small. ⁣
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But it 𝘪𝘴 possible to say a permanent goodbye to The Big Three. I’ve done it, I’ve watched client after client do it, and you can too. ⁣If you’re currently being run by one (or all) of The Big Three and you’re ready to finally do something, to take your power back and live a life you love, I’m here to help and accepting 1:1 clients. Click here to find out more. 
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